Well …. what can I say about our 17 year old son, Bryce, that hasn’t already been said here:
Nothing much has changed. He still expects for us to hand out money for him to go places (AND DEREK HAS BEEN GIVING IT TO HIM!!!). He still complains that the things that we buy him aren’t good enough AND he has yet to find a job. He worked the picking watermelons gig for a few weeks, until he decided that “it was just stupid” and basically got himself fired. We just keep chanting “two more years … two more years” to ourselves as a way to pacify the desire to physically shake the lazy out of him.
This morning he decided that he didn’t want to bother with getting up early and going to football practice, so we fully expect for him to get kicked off of the team, which he will declare to be “totally stupid”.
I don’t understand … it’s not like we have spoiled this child his whole life and it’s not like Derek and I sit around on our butts all day not working. Where did this laziness and sense of entitlement come from? Maybe I should blame those idiots on Jersey Shore – because they make being drunk and jobless seem soooooo cool.
I really am afraid that we are raising an entire generation of idiots.
Slappy, I just read you post on your site. Gee, I feel for you there. Does he want to go into the military? There is a place that is called R.O.T.C. and or the Job Core. If he is still yet, in school, I’d check into these places. Check with your local Unemployment agencies and work force connection centers. I will agree with you, that by your husband given into him this way, is not teaching him self respect. He needs to be able to show if not to you and your husband, but, to himself, that he can be independent instead of dependent then, there’s still yet, a chance in calming the waves before the storm hits the house. Just let him, know, that he needs to have a job by the time that he graduates from his high school or you will check into these resources that I’ve given you and see what he says. I do hope, that this helps you out with this situation. If so, please, you have both of my email addresses, let me know just how that works out for you and your husband. Does he plan on going to college after high school? If so, then, HE’S THE ONE THAT HAS TO BUCKLE DOWN AND MAKE AN EFFORT OF FINDING THE FINANCES TO FUND THE COLLEGE OF HIS CHOICE. I’m having to deal with issue with my 23 year old who decided, that he himself wanted to go off to college with out any grants or scholarships to back it up with. Unfortunately, I’m now having to fork out some money for the loan that I had to sign in order for him to go to college with. NEVER SIGN FOR A LOAN FOR YOUR SON TO GO TO COLLEGE……………. It will put a financial strain on your life. Believe me, it has mine. Hope, that this helps you out. Please, do let me know. Hope to hear from you soon.
Teresa (Good Blogs)
To be honest, he changes his mind about what he wants to do about every two weeks. Derek and I are actually hoping that he joins the military, we think that it would be the best thing for him.
Also, check with his high school guidance counselors on the R.O.T.C thing.
I also agree children seem to get lazier and fet a more sense of entitlement with each passing generation. It really pisses me off too something I really hate is hearing them say they are bored………..I do not get bored I do not rememeber ever being bored………….
Exactly! I am never bored – I can always find something to do, even if it is taking a long bubble bath and reading a good book.
The whole lying around watching mindless television or playing video games thing just boggles my mind.
I quite agree. I have 3 boys that are either on video games or on their computers. Now my youngest son does not have a computer but, he still gets on the video games. However, he does work. I’m trying to get the other ones going as well. I now have one that is in college. My oldest son, is the one that I’m having the most problems with. I believe that he had lost all sense of what true reality is. Me, I find myself going back and forth to my lap top when I’m trying to break away from it for a while. Unfortunately, every time I see it sitting where it’s at which, is on my desk, it’s as if it calls me to it and don’t want me to leave it. I’m not sure how to explain this situation but, that’s how I feel about the laptop. Any suggestions on how I can stay away from it for a while instead of being on it off and on all day long which, is what I’ve found myself doing? AT the moment, I do have things to straighten up around in my room. I do have books that I can read. However, the books that I have to read are that of working from home and writing. I’ve also, gotten my crafts to work on but, I’m starting to seriously, want to get into doing more of my writings. So, if there’s any suggestions, I’m all ears. I’ll look forward to hearing from you on this matter.
I am beginning to think that the Duggars have the right idea … not that they have 19 kids, because that is just craziness on a different level, but because they homeschool their kids and don’t allow them to have mindless tv watching, Facebook, or computer time. Of course with 19 kids in the house, who has time to do anything except raise 19 kids.
I would be a much better parent if I could raise my kids on an island away from everybody else. The influence of thuggy friends is VERY strong and sometimes I wonder if their influence just cancels out the good influence of parents.
I blame MTV and the internet for this generation of lazy idiots.
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