There is a quote that I’m absolutely loving right now
Givers have to set limits, because Takers rarely do.
I don’t know who originally said it and I’ve changed it around a little so I won’t be sued. Not like they could get much anyway, but you know.
For a long time, I was a Taker. Only in it for myself. Didn’t care what other people wanted or needed. A real bitch … and that’s putting it nicely.
Now I’m more of a giver, proud to say. I know the Taker part was because of the drugs and the horrific things they did to my brain and personality. I’d like to think that the Giver was always there, waiting until the Taker was caught in a bear trap and couldn’t escape.
I was a Giver pre-meds and I’m really a Giver now. It’s fun. It’s calm. It’s less dramatic.
It’s the right way to be.
However, I have some Takers in my life, who happen to be family members, who only want to be around when they are getting something for themselves. Who want to ridicule me and my business, which ironically is a business of helping people. Who are miserable and calculating and calculatingly miserable. Is that a word? Well it is now.
So I’ve had to “scrape” them off. It’s hard. It bothers me. I want for everyone to get along, but I know deep down in my heart that I have to keep being a Giver and not let the Takers destroy everything that is the me I love now.
Are you a Giver? Are you a Taker? How’s that working out for you?